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Adrienne Morris's avatar

I LOVED this so much! I could only start writing novels once I let go of needing to know what impact (if any) they’d have on the world. Agnes was doing what she felt was right not knowing you’d be writing about her all these years later and strengthening my faith! 😊

So when I was researching my novel I met a cousin for the first time. He was in his late 80s and we shared a love for an ancestor we have. There was no way of knowing when I published the book that he would be starting to have trouble with his memory. I sent him a copy and he’s read through it twice. It’s about where he grew up and about this relative we love. And it’s helping him to remember himself. If that’s all the novel ever does for anyone it’s enough.

Love the way you write about farm life too. Oh and the tradition of the lambs visiting the Pope! 🩵🩵🩵

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Oh my goodness, what a beautiful turn in your cousin's journey through memory troubles - to have your book, and that common ancestor, as a comforting balm. Your ancestor would be beaming with delight!

I'm so glad you enjoyed this...and I've felt just the same with my art as you've felt with writing! When I hold onto outcomes or expectations, I wind up anxious and disappointed, and inevitably lose inspiration. The process is where it's all at!

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Walther Cantu's avatar

Diana and I prayed to St. Agnes during our engagement because of a prayer card I have since lost. Then, while exploring Rome during our honeymoon, we walked into a Church around Piazza Navona and behold, St. Agnes skull beneath the high altar of the Church. It was a nice wink from the saint.

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Oooo that is STELLAR - what a beautiful moment!

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Alexandra Wendt's avatar

The correlation of an increase in technology and the feeling of needing control and consistency is something I've been coming to terms with in my own life and consciously try to pull back from. Also, I love learning this much about a saint!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

That correlation is something that really snuck up on me...like water slowly heating up to a boil, but I didn't realize it had happened until I'd already trained myself in these impatient/control-oriented habits via technology! Now that I'm more aware of the effect it has on me, I'm trying to manage it healthily without throwing it all out the window and just returning to a typewriter. 😂

I'm so glad you enjoyed reading!

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Alexandra Wendt's avatar

Oh it's soooo tempting to just throw all the technology away, I understand!!

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Catherine Nunan's avatar

This is why I like your posts. I know nothing about this Saint and her traditions and the whys and wherefores. Her approach to life and what that is to us who come after, the guidance of trying our best and pruning the branches we do have despite the unknown outcome, is completely relatable to me. And I’m in Australia where it was 30 degrees Celsius today. I have to do what I do in my little Domestic Monastery and trust God with the outcome. Thank you for the post and the sweet reminder. I greatly needed it and so I will celebrate this feast for the first time with joy in my heart.

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Oh Catherine, that really fills my cup to hear - thanks for letting me explore these things and wrestle with them alongside you. I find that this call to rest in joy no matter the outcomes is something I perpetually need to practice. St. Agnes was new to me and has taught me so much already!

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Denise Trull's avatar

I was gulping this down faster and faster as I went. I will need to read at least three more times! Such wonderful poetry, drawings and thoughts collected. A feast! Thank you!!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Thank you so, so much for this, Denise - that really warms my heart to hear! Learning about St. Agnes was so inspiring for me, and I'm thrilled that you feel the same. :)

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Catherine Nunan's avatar

I was exactly the same! Rushing in ahead to read it all at once. Tomorrow I will go back and slowly absorb it.

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Carolyn MK's avatar

My favorite Saint Agnes tradition (also associated with other feasts) is the “dumb cake”! Definitely superstitious and not approved by the church but too funny - just reeks of teenage slumber party shenanigans. https://blogs.bl.uk/untoldlives/2016/10/the-dumb-cake.html#:~:text=The%20dumb%2Dcake%20was%20a,April)%2C%20and%20Midsummer%20Eve.

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

It SO feels like a slumber party, haha! I was honestly close to posting a dumb cake recipe - thanks for the great link!

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Katie Marquette's avatar

This is so beautiful, thank you Kristin! My second daughter's birthday is the Feast of St Agnes (and she was born at St Agnes hospital even!) so clearly she is meant to be an important saint in our lives, but I know so little about her. This was the perfect introduction.

Such an important lesson to only control the *very little* that we can and trust and hope for the best. Something I really need to learn! Also I love this tradition of the lambs!!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Oh my goodness, what a sweet serendipity!! Happy (almost) birthday to your sweet girl. I'm so glad you enjoyed this little dive into St. Agnes. :)

And I'm right there with you, trying to learn to let my expectations for outcomes go...it's so hard!

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Sarah Lee's avatar

Such beautiful poems, images and thoughts, Kristin! I enjoy learning about these holidays from you so much! ❤️

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Aw thanks Sarah!! It's such a treat to get to learn about these days and chat about them with you. :)

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Morgan's avatar

The last time I went out in an ice storm looking for suet for a recipe was actually not that long ago. I think I just ended up with the brandy. 😂

This one is new to me, but I love the lamb blessing! Our parish is doing a collection for the homeless, and I think it would be nice to throw in some wool socks in honor of Saint Agnes.

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Wool socks for St Agnes - that's brilliant! What a beautiful idea.

The brandy during an ice storm does sound like a pretty good deal in the end, even without suet 😂

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Emma Stewart's avatar

What a wonderful piece! Love the excerpts from Keats and Tennyson as well, I had no idea they wrote such beautiful St Agnes Day poems!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Thank you so much, Emma! I'm continually amazed by how I can count on the likes of Keats and Tennyson to deliver when it comes to gorgeous poetry for obscure holidays!

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Emma Ogilvie's avatar

I love the new, longer format!! Easier to reference, too :)

Thank you for the work you do! I learn so much with every read.

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

I'm so glad you liked the format here!! I have a tendency to over-complicate, so I'm trying to simplify a bit in the new year. ;)

Thanks so much for your kind words...it's a joy to get to share in all this with you!

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Carol's avatar

lovely and thoughtful..........

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Thanks so much, Carol :)

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Beautiful, Kristin. Without attachment to outcome ....

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Thanks so much, Jolene. Letting go of that attachment is going to be the work of my lifetime!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Mine too! 😂

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

Oh my - bless you, Jason! Your gracious words have really filled my heart up today...I'm so glad to know that these little journeys into the saints are fruitful for you.

And I know what you mean about the mingled grief and delight! Though I come from a mix of Lutheran & Catholic heritage, I didn't grow up going to church, and much of my perception of modern Christian worship came from traditions that didn't seem to embrace the calendar or the saints (at least from my vantage point - maybe I wasn't seeing clearly). When I started to read the lives of the saints, it was like a whole world of solidarity opened up to me - and I felt like I'd missed so much time with them, I needed to dig in full bore! (Interestingly, I've read that in the Middle Ages, homilies worked with passages from both the Bible and from Jacobus de Voragine's "The Golden Legend", a collection of hagiographies! I love that their lives and testimonies were woven into worship).

Thanks again...I'm so grateful to get to explore these beautiful things with friends like you. I was brand new to St. Agnes as well, and it's been such a joy getting to know her!

P.S. And I'm thrilled you like the longer format! I think that's more sustainable for me, and probably easier to keep track of for most readers. That's my hope, anyway!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

I personally love it, since I really connect with the medieval perspective and the mix of traditional folklore with history...whenever I come across a mythic story about a saint's life or an event (the example that jumps to mind is all the lore surrounding Mary), it almost always comes from the Golden Legend.

I don't know if it's a fair comparison, but I tend to think of the Golden Legend in similar terms as Alexander Carmichael's compilation of the Carmina Gadelica - an attempt to compile regular folks' traditions surrounding their faith, including stories that are often spurious, but nonetheless reflect the devotion of the faithful. So, we don't *really* know if St. Thomas was literally asked to design a palace...but he's still been portrayed in portraiture and architecture with a T-square, reflecting that legend, and I find the stories to be so rich.

Butler's Lives of the Saints is probably one of the best starting points, though!

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Kristin Haakenson's avatar

It's no surprise, of course, but my gosh - you always have SUCH a way with words, dear Jody! I'm just ever so grateful for you & your wisdom. Thank you for your generous words...I'm so touched!

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